Love totally while someone is alive
Ordinarily, this is our logic, that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone. The logic is fallacious. In fact, if you have loved a person really, when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much.
Your father dies, if you have loved him totally while he was alive, you will be able to say goodbye to him without any grief. The experience of love was total and fulfilling; nothing is left undone; nothing is hanging over your head. The experience is complete.
Complete the Experience
Try to understand this. Whatever an experience is complete, you are ready to say goodbye very easily. But if you have not loved your father as you always wanted to, you have not been respectful towards him, and you will feel guilty. Now the father is gone; now there is no way to fulfill your desire, to show your respect, your love. You will cry and weep and you will be broken, and you will say that you are broken because your father is dead, but the real thing is something else.
You are broken because now the possibility to love is gone. The son will cry more if he as not really loved his father. If he has loved his father he will be able to accept the fact – Love is very accepting and very understanding.
~Courtesy Osho International foundation/ http://www.osho.com/
Ordinarily, this is our logic, that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone. The logic is fallacious. In fact, if you have loved a person really, when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much.
Your father dies, if you have loved him totally while he was alive, you will be able to say goodbye to him without any grief. The experience of love was total and fulfilling; nothing is left undone; nothing is hanging over your head. The experience is complete.
Complete the Experience
Try to understand this. Whatever an experience is complete, you are ready to say goodbye very easily. But if you have not loved your father as you always wanted to, you have not been respectful towards him, and you will feel guilty. Now the father is gone; now there is no way to fulfill your desire, to show your respect, your love. You will cry and weep and you will be broken, and you will say that you are broken because your father is dead, but the real thing is something else.
You are broken because now the possibility to love is gone. The son will cry more if he as not really loved his father. If he has loved his father he will be able to accept the fact – Love is very accepting and very understanding.
~Courtesy Osho International foundation/ http://www.osho.com/
